Somatic SEX & Relationship COACHING
WHAT is somatic sex & Relationship coaching?
Imagine a life that is centered around pleasure.
Pleasure is an act of resistance.
As a Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach, I am your guide to creating new passionate possibilities for a pleasure joy-filled life. Are you ready to center your desires and embrace the courage to unwind old stories and experiences that limit your ability to express and receive unconditional love? What could be possible if you put pleasure first?
The beauty of honoring our desires and centering pleasure is the growth and expansion we begin to experience in all areas of our lives. When we dare to create the lives we dream of, we throw away the masks that force us to contort into what others want us to be, and discover the beauty of being our most authentic selves.
And trust me, there is nothing sexier than being you.
THE EROTIC BLUEPRINTS®
Imagine being able to clearly understand and communicate your desires, both in and out of the bedroom. Imagine feeling deeply seen by your partner while also understanding how to more fully pleasure and connect with them. This work can support individuals and couples in navigating challenges around differing sex drives, perceived incompatibility, emotional disconnection, unhealthy communication patterns, shame, and difficulty accessing pleasure.
The Erotic Blueprints® were created by my mentor, somatic sexologist Jaiya, who discovered that each of us has a unique wiring when it comes to arousal, pleasure, intimacy, and erotic expression. Through tools such as the Erotic Blueprint Quiz® and the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough Course®, thousands of people have gained a deeper understanding of themselves and their partners, transforming their relationships and expanding their capacity for pleasure, connection, and authentic expression.
I have personally witnessed the profound impact of this work, not only in my clients’ lives, but in my own. These practices have the potential to create greater intimacy, self-awareness, confidence, communication, and aliveness, and I would be honored to support you in exploring them.
who is sex coaching for?
Sex and relationship coaching is for anyone seeking deeper intimacy, embodiment, pleasure, and authentic connection. This work can profoundly support both our relationships and our relationship with ourselves.
It is especially supportive for people navigating challenges around body image, communication, desire, arousal, intimacy, or sexual satisfaction. Many people come to this work after growing up without healthy models for intimacy, emotional expression, or relational repair. Others are untangling the impact of shame-based cultural or religious conditioning that taught them to fear or suppress their desires.
Trauma-informed sex coaching can also support those healing from sexual trauma, reconnecting with their bodies, exploring identity, or learning to better understand and communicate their needs, boundaries, and desires. This work may also be supportive for individuals and couples exploring kink, BDSM, power dynamics, or nontraditional relationship structures who are seeking grounded, affirming, and consent-centered support.
This work welcomes individuals and couples of diverse backgrounds, identities, relationship structures, and lived experiences, including LGBTQIA+ and kink communities.
WHy SEX COACHING HELPS
For You
Uncover and reframe beliefs about sex that lead to shame and fear
Get support in transitioning gender identities or sexual orientation
Receive the forbidden kinky pleasures you have been fantasizing about
Embody erotic personas for greater play and mastery in your life
Feed each of your Erotic Blueprints® so that you never feel starving for affection again
Ignite passion and feel fulfilled in other areas of your life
For your Relationships
Understand your and your partners’ unique arousal pathways
Heal unprocessed emotional blocks and the junk you have been carrying around for years
Create solid consent containers and communicate boundaries
Practice empathy to hear and feel heard
Confidently express your needs and desires
Gain creative new skills for sexual mastery
Revitalize long-term partnerships with novelty, curiosity, adventure, and play
Support for exploring or transitioning to new relationship styles
ACCELERATED
EVOLUTION
SESSION
Schedule an Accelerated Evolution® session anytime to experience the transformative potential of this powerful modality for yourself. Sessions are available individually or as part of a coaching package and are thoughtfully tailored to support your unique goals, challenges, and areas of growth.
These 75-minute sessions can help clients integrate emotional blocks, shift limiting beliefs and patterns, improve communication, gain clarity, strengthen relationships, and cultivate greater alignment, resilience, and self-understanding. Accelerated Evolution® sessions are supportive for both individuals and couples navigating life transitions, relational challenges, emotional overwhelm, or moments of feeling stuck or disconnected.
COACHING
for Individuals
Sex and relationship coaching for individuals offers a supportive space to explore intimacy, desire, embodiment, communication, healing, and authentic self-expression. This work can support those navigating shame, relational patterns, sexuality, trauma, identity exploration, or a longing for deeper connection with themselves and others through a trauma-informed, kink-affirming, and pleasure-centered approach. Sessions and coaching packages are thoughtfully tailored to each client’s unique needs, goals, and lived experiences.
Coaching for couples
Sex and relationship coaching for couples offers a supportive space to deepen intimacy, improve communication, navigate conflict, explore desire, and cultivate more authentic and nourishing connection. This work can support couples navigating desire discrepancy, relational wounds, shame, transitions, nontraditional relationship structures, kink exploration, or a longing for greater emotional and erotic intimacy. Sessions and coaching packages are trauma-informed, kink-affirming, LGBTQIA+-inclusive, and thoughtfully tailored to each relationship’s unique needs, goals, and dynamics.
“Before saying yes to working with Zhenya, I had just ended my marriage, I felt lost, and angry and did not desire sex. I did not know how to express my desires or ask for what I wanted. Body dysphoria left me feeling conflicted about how I wanted to receive pleasure, and I had a lot of confusion about my sexual orientation, my body, my gender, or how to communicate any of those things to potential partners.
Zhenya’s support and the Erotic Blueprint® framework helped me discover who I am as a sexual being and helped me experience true embodiment. I learned how to create a consent container, set boundaries, and slow down, which I found was vital for my energetic blueprint. I learned how to truly “feed” my unique blueprints and receive pleasure. Most importantly, I realized that I was never broken! Now, I know that pleasure and sex aren’t something that only happens during sex, but something I could expand into every moment of my life. I have a language to communicate my needs, desires, and limits, in and out of the bedroom.” - Ryan
Accessibility & Equity
My work is rooted in the anti-patriarchal, anti-capitalist, and anti-racist practices of reciprocity and collective liberation. In acknowledging systemic oppression and the unequal distribution of wealth and privilege based on race, gender, class, and ability, I will always keep offerings financially accessible with affordable pricing and payment plans. Investing in our sexual health, and emotional and spiritual wellbeing in late-stage capitalism is an act of resistance. We have been taught to value productivity at the expense of our minds and bodies. These important practices have been suppressed, undervalued, and even criminalized. Those of us who work in the field of somatic sexology continue to face discrimination and censorship. It is tender to hold these truths, while also honoring the tremendous value, personal investment, and wholehearted dedication it takes to continue making this important work available to all.
Why is working with me different?
I am committed to sharing my offerings consensually, without any pressure or playing on pain points to create a feeling of urgency. I do not resonate with these kinds of sales tactics. If you reach out to book a discovery call with me, know that I am truly interested in supporting you even if that means referring you to someone who may be better equipped to address your unique needs. I want us to walk into our agreement feeling confident, grounded, and inspired.
